Dating without intent to marry is like my wifes dating blackzilla
This is different from my generation, which is encouraged to “wait until you are ready to get married” before pursuing a romantic relationship.
I talked with homeschool parents, students and alumni all over the country and started to see some challenges with making courtship work.
When my grandmother dated in middle school (yes, middle school) her parents had one primary rule for her.
The Primary Dating Rule: Don’t go out with the same guy twice in a row. She explained that the lack of exclusivity helped them guard their hearts and kept things from getting too serious too quickly. The lack of exclusivity helped the girls guard their hearts and kept the boys from feeling entitled to the girl.
They were not the Bible-reading, small-grouping, mission-tripping Christian young people common in evangelical churches today.
And yet her community of friends all got married and then stayed married for decades and decades.
But here are the elements most conservative communities have in common: My grandmother grew up in a marginally Christian community.